I had a friend once who would look at me and say, “if only you could see what I see.” It took me a long time, too long, to see what he did, but I did. Ok, so that’s a little bit of a lie. Sometimes there are days I could use a little reminder, but for the most part no. I get it. I’m pretty awesome.
He taught me to know my worth.
Its a tough thing for many women, too many women. I now have a friend or two that I look at and say, “if only you could see what I see.”
And no. I’m not going to blame men or a male dominated society or any of the other trendy things that are floating out there about the oppression of women.
I put the blame on women, squarely on women.
We need to be better to ourselves, to each other. We need to stop the petty bullshit. Well, some of us.
I love women. I know some extraordinary women, many who know their worth, some who don’t.
And the thing is that I love the ones that know their worth. I love how smart and fabulous they are. I spend a great deal of time telling them how much I love them and how amazing they are.
I also love the ones who don’t. I spend a considerable amount of time trying to get them to see what I see.
The whole women can’t be friends line needs to be retired. My world is filled with smart, strong, amazing, incredible women. Real women. True friends. Even the ones that started out as strangers have somehow found their way into an unbelievable circle filled with women that inspire and challenge me regularly.
Knowing all of these exceptional women, whether they know their worth or not, always brings me back to my friend, the one who wanted me to see what he saw. I know my worth. Maybe it took me too long, but I know it. And I look around at all the women in my life and it cements it. Why? Because they are all a reflection of my worth. And, hey, if I’m to be judged by the company I keep, well, I’m pretty freakin fabulous!
We, women, have come so far, even in my lifetime. We can do anything and be anything. Yes, one day one of us will even become President.
For now though let’s take a good look at ourselves and love what we see in the mirror. No, not the fabulous make-up job or great hair, but the person we see. Let’s see what our friends see when they look at us, and let’s find those same things in the women that we love. That’s true #girlpower!
Kristen Ferrari 